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On March 10th, Honey Maid, the makers of crackers and cookie nibbles, ran a clip promoting ‘wholesome’, featuring inter-racial and homosexual couples enjoying their snacks. The 30 second spot already has over 4 million hits on YouTube and over 1,000 comments, ranging from support to those condemning the ad as ‘promoting sin’.

The social group One Million Moms have already attacked the ad, stating, “Nabisco should be ashamed of themselves for their latest Honey Maid and Teddy Graham cracker commercial where they attempt to normalize sin,” they wrote on their website. “This commercial not only promotes homosexuality, but then calls the scene in the advertisement wholesome.”

Today, Honey Maid posted a new video, even longer at 1 minute and 44 seconds, acknowledging the haters and essentially saying: It’s okay, we still support what we believe.

Still promoting ‘wholesome’ acceptance, the company enlisted the help of artists who took the comments of hate, found on YouTube, Twitter, blogs and Nabisco’s website, and created an art piece promoting love and support.

The company shows how 9 in every 10 responses were positive, and that encouragement and love out number and conquer the haters and trolls. This is an awesome new trend growing with companies, who don’t back down from negative responses and keep believing in acceptance. Love will always win.

You can watch the clip below:


We don’t choose who we love. We just love.
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How come nobody ever says, “You chose to be straight?”  How about never? Yet, a lot of people still think being gay is a choice.  Of course, it isn’t.  It’s just innate biology.  You love who you love.  That has nothing to do with choice.

If it did, wouldn’t you just choose the person who had the most money, or the one with the best personality?  Maybe you would choose the one who had a mixed-breed labradoodle because they don’t make you sneeze.  Maybe… but none of these people are ones you happen to be in love with.  Sure, they have nice qualities, but love is not a choice.  It’s a feeling.  It’s an enigma.  Nobody can say what love is in words since it’s not something words can aptly define.  Yet, most of us know love.

A new ABC drama, “The Fosters,” is making waves by tackling the idea of homosexuality being a choice.  The daughter ends up talking with her father about why she left the church and never went back.

To really upset conservatives, the lesbian couple in this drama happens to be biracial.  Oh, and they are foster parents.  Terri Polo and Sherri Saum (yes, their first names rhyme) play the couple.  Hmm…funny that their last name is Foster and they are foster parents.

The bottom line is that the daughter gives such a good explanation of her “choice.”  She said, “Let’s pretend that it is a choice…I chose to be happy.”  Enough said.

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Bill Campbell’s and John Hilton’s love spanned over 5 decades.
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This is a love story that spans over 50 years.  It is a classic that endures the test of time, and yes, it is that of two men.  William (Bill) Campbell met John Hilton in 1957.

“I saw this fascinating looking person and was totally taken by him, and I thought this is the best thing that’s ever happened to me and, sure enough, it was,” said Bill.

Soon after, John received a draft notice and was sent to Europe for the war.  Though it was a fearful time, he received letters from Bill every few days telling him he missed him and couldn’t wait to be together.  It’s what kept him going.

A letter from Bill to John, sent on December 5, 1958 had a sweet, romantic tone in discussing their love.  However, the ending was perfect.  It ended with “M.T.E.” which stands for “more (love) than ever.” He signed all his letters that way.

“That says it all,” stated Bill upon listening to the letter once again.

While John returned from the war, he enrolled in school.  He attended for nine years and worked full-time.  During that time, Bill did all the chores to help out.  He made the bed, prepared all the meals and did all the other housekeeping.  Upon graduating, in 1971, John made a vow to never, ever let Bill do the laundry again. He stayed true to his word and now he does all the work.

Bill eventually developed Parkinson ’s disease.  At that time, John vowed to do everything he could to alleviate his suffering.  He became a caregiver and tried to ensure his comfort despite the physical hardships.  Bill’s voice went down to whisper volume after paralysis gripped his vocal chords.  Even then he declared his love.

On May 7, 2011, Bill passed away due to the ravages of his disease.  That was just seven months before New York state legalized gay marriage.  It’s a shame he didn’t live to see it.

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DOMA currently prevents same-sex couples from obtaining a green card or immigration visa for foreign-born spouses.
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What is more important to you – love or your native homeland?  If you happen to be a gay American married to a person from a foreign country, you will likely have to choose.  At least for now, because of the way DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) is structured, you cannot legally obtain a green card or immigration visa for your foreign born spouse.

“Since it was signed into law by President Clinton it has caused immeasurable harm to lesbian and gay Americans and our families. It has destroyed marriages, torn apart families, depleted savings, forced us to defer plans to start families, to buy a home, start a business or pursue our education. DOMA has robbed us of years of our lives, it has left us poorer, unable to care for our families, forced into exile, separated from those we love, living in fear of a deportation, hiding in a double closet and enduring a constant, crippling burden of stress that few relationships could survive,” says The DOMA Project website.

While state after state continues to vote in favor of legalizing gay marriage, those with foreign-born spouses or partners will continue to have to wait for the right to be together.  It’s something so simple…to just want to be together.

Some couples do defy the law in order to spend more time together.  Yet, that comes at the risk of deportation if caught.

David and Jason, a bi-national couple, know how hard it is.  Jason is British and David is from the U.S.  They married in New York City in 2012.  However, because it is still not a federally recognized marriage, it’s not enough to keep the couple together.  Over the course of six years, DOMA has separated David and Jason 17 times.  Jason has never been allowed to stay in the U.S. for more than 90 days as a tourist.

Yet he isn’t a tourist.  He is somebody’s loved one.  He’s David’s husband.  They continue to fight and apply for a spousal immigration visa.  They continue to be denied.  Hopefully one day this will change.